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The Stigma of Heroism

Balancing Strength and Needs

First responders are touted as the protectors of others, the bastions of strength and reliability, and the pinnacles of heroism. While all of this is true, it can be challenging to balance all of these titles and expectations with being a “normal” person. First responders—whether police officers upholding the law, EMTs responding to dire situations, or firefighters braving the impossible—are also people with their own mental and emotional needs and deal with the stigma of heroism. It is important for them to learn to balance these notions with a degree of self-care and even distance themselves from the expected heroism that has been imparted onto them.

Confronting an Ascribed Identity

First responders are in a unique position that their career path is often tied to an expectation of their character. Many first responders are often considered selfless, law-abiding, caring people who have garnered the strength and will to help those around them, from an individual in need to entire communities at large. Honoring first responders can come in various forms, each of which reinforces this notion of an ascribed identity. However, it can also be paramount for a first responder’s health to occasionally distance themselves from these notions and allow other aspects of their identity to flourish or find some other form of mental respite from having to uphold such a lofty expectation.

Regardless of the intention behind honoring a first responder for their service and sacrifice, those in a stressful line of work can benefit from separating their identity as a servant of a community and put their needs as a person before their ascribed.

Learning to Take Time for Yourself

Even the idea that a first responder can take time off for themselves can be a significant hurdle on its own. There can be a number of reasons that an individual may find such a notion difficult, even outside of societal expectations. Peers and superiors may continue to reinforce the notion that one’s line of work is intrinsically tied to their expectations and identity, and insist that time off isn’t necessary. It may also be difficult to take much time off due to the workplace culture that is prevalent throughout the entirety of the United States.

However, there can also be self-imposed reasons why taking time off can be difficult, even if it may be entirely necessary to help rejuvenate one’s mental state and process the stressful experiences from workplace events. Guilt can be a major reason why taking time off can be difficult under the idea that if someone isn’t available at all times to act, protect, or serve a community, then any transpiring disasters are then the individual’s fault, regardless of how realistic such a notion may be. The expectation to always be an agent of service can overcome other aspects of one’s identity and needs in the process as expectations are continuously thrust upon them.

However, such notions are an active reason why taking this time off can be essential. The toll that feelings of guilt, or the weight of expectation, can take on an individual can be monumental. Breaks are not just necessary for one’s own mental health and rest but are also crucial to maintain a healthy mindset and decision-making skills while in the field.

Taking Time to Explore Identity

Taking some time to explore one’s identity outside of the workplace or beyond the definition of a first responder can be necessary for finding a healthy balance for one’s wellbeing. For some, this can mean taking a vacation and spending time with family, while others may need to use this time to learn to separate their work life from their personal goals.

By no means does this notion need to discount one’s status as a first responder, but rather is intended to build upon one’s identity to accept both personal and professionals goals, interests, and traits. Getting off the clock and taking time to engage in a hobby like music, art, or having a movie night with loved ones can be the kind of practice necessary to begin exploring balance in one’s life.

Practicing other hobbies and allowing oneself to detach from work and just go mini-golfing with friends is an essential part of balancing expectations while still building an identity outside of ascribed characteristics. It is possible to be a first responder, an artist, and a tutor to one’s children. Taking time to decompress and explore one’s own identity off the clock is necessary to ensure a fulfilling balance between work expectations, personal development, and a healthy mental state.

Balancing your identity as a first responder with your personal needs can be a complicated endeavor. It can be difficult to distinguish oneself from the characteristics often ascribed to you.

At Chateau, we understand your hurdles as a first responder. We are prepared to help you take the first step towards a healthy, balanced lifestyle. We offer specialized first responder programs based around peer support, understanding, and stress management.

Our community can help you continue to learn strategies to help you balance your life and explore your identity in a safe environment that promotes vulnerability, safety, and growth. For more information on how we can personalize your time with us, or to speak to a caring, trained staff member about your unique situation, call us today at (435) 222-5225

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